My kids and I lived alone after my divorce for 15 years! We did what we wanted, and we like to play video games sometimes! We'll , I remarried 3 years ago! My kids have been playing Mario and luigi alot lately! They play in the living room! I'm just happy they get along so well, and it's their home, so I think they should be able to play in the living room! It's not a real loud game, and they are having fun! They both work and go to school, so it's not like they are playing all the time! Today happens to be a holiday, so they have been playing alot! My husband is always outside anyway doing yard work! When he walks in the house he hears the game! He told me it's irritating, and it's going to have to stop, and they have to play in there room! I don't think it's right to send them to there're bedrooms to play. And they stay in their bedrooms enough already!
Do you think he's right, and that I should tell them they have to play in there're rooms!Is my husband right to make my kids go in their room to play video games?
Televisions, game systems do NOT belong in the bedrooms. They belong in a family room where everyone can enjoy them. Besides televisions and video games have been proven to be detremental to sleeping habits, causing sleep disorders and sleep deprivation in kids, causing them to be less alert and even fall asleep in school. Bedrooms are a place for relaxation, reflection, rest and sleep. Tell your husband to back off that he married a woman with children and he made a CHOICE to be irritated when he did so.
I think that he is right but you are to bcuz that is not there real daddy so who is he to tell and he do he think he is !!!!!!!!!Is my husband right to make my kids go in their room to play video games?
I dont see what the big deal is. If he wants them to play in the bedroom then let em play in the bedroom, its not gonna kill them!
i think it's a great idea b/c my kids (i have 2 boys 1 girl) have to go in their room if they want to play b/c the living room is for every one not just the kiddies. i dont think he's being unfair and may be if they weren't your kids u would think differently. if u feel u r always in the middle that's something i would totally talk about with my husband and later with a solution that also includes the kids opinions talk with the whole family!!! good luck!!!Is my husband right to make my kids go in their room to play video games?
Your house, YOUR KIDS, your rules.
How old are they? I think they should respect the household enough to play their games out of earshot from the rest of the family as it can be very irritating. Maybe your husband would be more receptive to them playing in the living room if they hadn't been playing all day! They should have chores and help with the yard work too....I bet hubby would lighten up if they even offered to help him.
I take it your children are well into there teens. When you remarried after 15 years of doing what you wanted you should know some things have to change.Maybe when your husband comes in from outside, he would like to set down and watch some t.v. Your children will or should be on their own in a few years, if you love this man, you should give him some consideration. I do not think asking that they play in their room is unrealistic. You say they are in there room a lot as it is, Why is that?
You need to simply tell you husband what you have just told all of us. That you feel like you are in the middle. The children should not be playing videos or computer in their room to begin with. You need to know what they are playing and when they are playing it. Your husband also has to understand that this is just not a change for him. This is also a change for you and the children. He needs to be allot more understanding.
It can be irritating. They are taking over a general area of the house and it's very inconsiderate to your husband who now lives with you. If they go to school summer is just around the corner and no one wants to hear that all the time. Our kids are always a joy to us, but not everyone shares the same sentiment. You have let them do things their way for a long time but in the real world, there is a lot of adjusting to others.
I would just bring the game into their room and let them know you want to spend some quiet time with your husband. IF they are old enough to work, they are old enough to understand.
Sorry, he's right. Video games will always be considered entertainment of those with little or no maturity. I know some adults play them, but your husband is right. I've grounded my kids from video games so often they enjoy being outside more now! They interact with other kids more, they are "way" more physically fit than the couch potato's that video game generation has created. You want to know what to tell your kids? Tell them to obey their elders without question or move out!
You must know or feel that your husband doesn't really like your kids and that appears to be the issue all the way around...
Maybe encourage them to go outside and help with the yardwork and everyone would be happier and more prepared for the working world.
Yeah--If he needs some quiet--the husband can go to HIS room...He is the newcomer in this situation!
Can't you have a family meetting to discuss this. Maybe each member can say how they feel about and then you could as a family discuss this..
Maybe the kids can play in the living room for 2 hrs and then after that take it to the bedrooms?
Some suggestions.......you gotta keep hubby happy too as well as your self.
Good luck
Read your questions, the answers, and your subsequent responses - now for my two cents. I also have two boys and am remarried. And yes - the video games used to be an issue. However - several things to remember.
1) While it is true that you want to enjoy the kids for as long as they are around, you need to remember that they will leave (at 22 I'll say eventually leave) and your hubby will be the one left to spend your time with. Also, on this note - if they are playing and you are not, then you aren't spending time - your providing a free arcade.
2) About the free thing. It's none of my business, but at 18 and 22, you say they are working and going to school. Are they in school full time making great grades, working full time and contributing financially? If not - then your husband may feel that if they have time to play then they have time to work or study. If you ask him - you might find out that there is more to it than just the noise.
3) That leads me to the noise - my boys are 12, they have all the game systems and computers. The noise gets old really quick - and I LIKE to play the games. Their solution - they share one room - to sleep in and I fixed up the other room as the "game room." The only exception is the Wii which needs more room. Its is in the living room, BUT - they ask if it will bother anyone if they play BEFORE they turn it own. There is a good chance that they don't realize that they are causing such a problem.
4) As for being in the middle - I find that I usually put myself there by defending my boys rather than going against them. At 22 and 18 they are old enough to appreciate the concept of shared space and should have enough respect for you and your husband to keep the game playing to non-family hours or remove it from the family area. And at 22 and 18 if they are playing you to the middle, then its time to put your foot down and remind them who mom is.
There are more important things in life than video games.
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